Do’s & Don’ts of Ramadan

The month of Ramadan is full of blessings and glad tidings. As Muslims, our endeavour should be to do things which are please our Lord and refrain from things which are disliked by HIM. This should be the general practice of muslims and more so in the blessed month of Ramadan where special emphasis should be laid on doing good and refraining from bad. We list out some of the Do’s and Don’ts of this blessed month.


Do keep your tongue moist in the remembrance of ALLAH SWT
Be generous during the month as Ibn Abbas said: “The prophet (S.A.W) was the most generous of the people, and in the month of Ramadan he would increase his generosity as if it were wave of a pleasant cool wind.”[Sahih Bukhari]

Recite Quran incessantly as Ramadan is considered the month of holy Quran since it was revealed during this month. The Prophet PBUH used to recite Quran to Angel Jibreel once every Ramadan but in the last Ramadan of his life he recited the Quran twice before Jibreel.

Try using dates for Suhoor (Pre-dawn meal) Prophet PBUH said “How excellent are dates as the believer’s Suhoor.”[Abu Dawood]

Forget all your grudges against your family members, neighbours, friends and all believers at large as the month of Ramadan is the best time to work on building better relationships. It was one of the qualities of the Prophet PBUH to establish good and steady relationship with his relatives — ‘Silat-Ar-Rahim’

Control your anger and try practicing the manners of highest order like Prophet’s and his Companions’.

Distribute Iftar to others as Prophet PBUH said: “He who gives food for a fasting person to break his fast, he will receive the same reward as him, except that nothing will be reduced from the fasting persons reward.” [Ahmed, Ibn Maajah]

Increase during this month four qualities: Two with which you shall please your Lord, and two with which you cannot do without. The two that shall please Allah SWT are the repetition of La Illaha Ill ALLAH and Istighfaar (asking forgiveness), and the two qualities you cannot do without are asking Allah SWT to be allowed into Paradise and taking refuge in Him from Hell.[taken from Prophet’s sermon on the last day of Shabaan]


Do not miss a single obligatory prayer during Ramadan. After testifying Shahadah the most important obligation on a believer is to offer Salat. Salat is the only thing which differentiates a believer from a non believer. As Prophet PBUH said: “That which differentiates us from the disbelievers and hypocrites is our performance of Salat. He, who abandons it, becomes a disbeliever.” [At-Tirmidhi]. Offering of Salah (prayers) is placed above fasting in the chronology of five Islamic pillars.

Do not waste time in needless things like shopping and. Avoid visiting markets as much as you can. Prophet PBUH said: “The parts of the land dearest to ALLAH are its Masjids, and the parts most hateful to ALLAH are its markets”. Try to cash in each and every second in the remembrance of ALLAH SWT.

Do not pollute your sight by gazing at non permissible activities such as watching TV (for entertainment), staring at pictures in magazines and newspapers. A believer must lower gaze all the times.

Do not indulge in unnecessary, indecent and abusive talk. Prophet PBUH said: “Fasting is not (merely abstaining) from eating and drinking, rather it is (abstaining) from ignorant and indecent speech, so if anyone abuses or behaves ignorantly with you, then say: I am fasting, I am fasting.” [Sahih Bukhari].

Do not backbite as it is worse than adultery as Prophet PBUH said: “There are seventy two forms of Riba, the least of which is as bad as a man having intercourse with his own mother, and the worst of which is when a man slanders the honour of his brother.” [Silsilah as Saheeh]

Do not listen to music at any time. Try to refrain from it from this Ramadan. Narrated By Abu ‘Amir or Abu Malik Al-Ash’ari , that he heard the Prophet saying, “From among my followers there will be some people who will consider illegal sexual intercourse, the wearing of silk, the drinking of alcoholic drinks and the use of musical instruments, as lawful.” [Sahih Bukhari Vol.7, Book 69, #494B]

Do not lose your temper and get into unnecessary quarrel. The holy month teaches us patience. We should always exercise it. The Prophet PBUH said: “Whoever does not give up forged speech and evil actions, ALLAH SWT is not in need of his leaving his food and drink. (i. e. ALLAH will not except his fasting).” [Sahih Bukhari]

Do not stare or talk to stranger females / males (non Maharam) and shake hands with them. The prophet PBUH said “It is better for you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle than to touch the hand of a woman who is not permissible to you.” [Classed Sahih by Shaikh Albani]

All these Do’s and Don’ts should be adhered to not only in Ramadan, but during other times as well.

Responsibilities of a muslim concerning a NEWBORN..

“To ALLAH SWT belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; HE SWT creates what HE SWT wills. HE SWT bestows to whom HE SWT wills female [children], and HE SWT bestows to whom He SWT wills male or HE SWT creates them [both] males and females, and HE SWT renders whom HE SWT wills barren. Indeed, HE SWT is all Knowing and Competent.” [Ash-Shura 42:50]. Surely, children are gifts from ALLAH SWT. Prophet Zechariah had no son until he wept and cried to ALLAH SWT for one. ALLAH SWT says, “And [mention] Zechariah, when he called to his Lord, “My Lord, do not leave me alone [with no heir], while you are the best of inheritors.” So WE responded to him, and WE gave to him Yahyaa and amended for him his wife. “[Al-Anbiya 21:89,90]. ALLAH SWT the Glorious granted him a son from a barren wife.

ALLAH SWT says while mentioning the traits of HIS noble slaves, “And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes” [Al-Furqan: 25:74]. It therefore becomes imperative to fulfill some duties which ALLAH SWT has levied upon an individual whom HE SWT has granted an offspring.

1. Aqeeqah (slaughtering): Aqeeqah is a term used for an animal, to be slaughtered for the sake of a new-born baby whether male or female. It is a Sunnah Moakkadah (a Sunnah that has been emphasized upon) according to the majority of scholars. Prophet PBUH said, “Aqeeqah is to be offered for a (newly born) boy, so slaughter (an animal) for him, and relieve him of his suffering.” (Bukhari). Prophet PBUH offered Aqeeqah of his grandsons Hassan and Hussain (may ALLAH SWT be pleased with them). It is important to note that Aqeeqah should be offered on the seventh day as he PBUH said, “Every child is dependent on his Aqeeqah. It should be slaughtered for him on the seventh day, his hair shaved and he should be given a name” (Saheeh Abu Dawud, Tirmizi, Nasai). In case of delay, it should be offered as soon as possible for him. The Aqeeqah of a boy is with two sheep and a girl with one. Prophet PBUH said, “It is two sheep for a boy and one for a girl.” (Saheeh Abu Dawud, Ahmed, Nasai)

Note: If a person’s parents have not offered his Aqeeqah, he can himself offer his own Aqeeqah

2. Naming the newborn: The newborn should be conferred an appropriate name on his/her seventh day of birth according to Sunnah. The prophet PBUH renamed inept and unislamic names. The best of names are Abdullah and AbdurRahman. Ibn Umar RA said that the Prophet PBUH said, “The best of your names in the sight of ALLAH SWT are Abdullah and AbdurRahman” (Muslim). Names other than these are also permitted under the condition that they should not be attributing shirk or mean ill. One such example is the name, Abdul Munaf or Munaf. During the times of Prophet PBUH, Munaf was the name of an idol hence Abdul Munaf would mean the slave of the Idol Munaf.

Note: Prefix of “Abd” should only be labelled to the 99 known names or Sifaat of ALLAH SWT, rest all would be termed as Shirk.

3. Shaving the head of the newborn: The head of the newborn male or female should be shaved on the seventh day of birth after the Aqeeqah. This shorn hair should be weighed and an equal amount of silver (equal to the weight of the shorn hair) should be given away as charity. Ali RA said to Fatimah RA, “O Fatimah, shave his (her son Hassan’s) head and give silver equal to the weight of his hair as charity” (Hasan Tirmizi)

4. Tahneek: It is a practice to chew a date (a portion of it) and make the newborn to taste it until a bit of it enters his stomach. Narrated Abu Musa RA: “A son was born to me and I took him to the Prophet who named him Ibrahim, did Tahneek for him with a date, invoked ALLAH SWT to bless him and returned him to me.” (Bukhari)

5. Pronouncing Azan (Call to prayer): An Azan should be said in the right ear of the child. According to Abu Raavi’s hadith, he says, “I saw the Prophet PBUH giving azan, as that of prayer, in the ear of Hasan bin Ali when Fatimah RA delivered him” (Hasan Tirmizi)

Kindly be aware that the Sunnah regarding Aqeeqah, confering a name and shaving the head are to be observed on the seventh day of the child’s birth, whereas tahneek and azan are to be discharged soon after the birth. It is therefore the prime responsibility of parents to bring up the child in an Islamic environment so that the offsprings are better Muslims inshALLAH.

Raising children: Need of the hour

The major challenge of a modern Islamic society is to raise children in an appropriate Islamic environment. It is more a distinct dream for Muslim parents in today’s highly undesirable culture. Negative effects of television, internet and other forms of media have spread their tentacles deep and wide into our families. It is rather an uphill task for Muslim parents to shield their children from these vices. Raising and educating children is one of the fundamental duties required of parents. ALLAH SWT has enjoined in the Holy Quran “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from ALLAH SWT, but do that which they are commanded.” [Tahreem 66:6] In the commentary of this verse, Imam Al-Tabari said “and your families against a Fire” connotes to educate your families towards acts of obedience to ALLAH SWT so that they may safeguard themselves from the Fire.                                                                                               

Ibn Al-Jawzi narrates about a very wealthy King who had only one daughter. The girl was pampered to core with luxurious upbringing. A devout worshipper who happened to be the king’s neighbour, whilst reciting Quran one night, raised his voice upon the verse, “O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones” [Tahreem 66:6]. Taking notice of this recitation, the girl ordered her servants, to “Stop!” But they could not pause him. The staunch believer continued to repeat the verse, and the girl kept on insisting to bring that to a halt, but the worshiper didn’t. She put her hands to her collar and tore her garment. The servants who witnessed the scene rushed to her father and revealed the matter. The king went to his daughter and said, “My dear, what happened to you tonight? What made you weep?” and he hugged her. She said, “I ask you by ALLAH SWT, O my father, tell me, does ALLAH SWT has created a Fire and the fuel of which is men and stones?” He said, “Yes.” She asked him, “Why did you not enlighten me? By ALLAH SWT I will not eat any good food or sleep on any soft bed until I know whether my abode is in Paradise or Hell.” [Safwat Al-Safwah, 4/437-438]

In another verse ALLAH SWT mentions “And enjoin as-Salaat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them [i.e. the Salaat (prayers)]” [Ta-Ha 20:132]. This ayah further substantiates the approach towards constitution of family and emphasizing the importance of Salaat. The Messenger PBUH shouldered the mammoth responsibility of fostering children on parents and made it obligatory on them. It was narrated that ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar said: I heard the Messenger of ALLAH SWT PBUH say: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock” [extracted from Agreed upon hadith].

It is one of the obligations of parents to up bring their children in best prescribed manner so that they develop love for ALLAH SWT, HIS messenger PBUH and towards the teachings of Islam. It is the responsibility of the parents to advice their children that ALLAH SWT adjudicates every action, the reward for good deeds being Paradise and Hell for misdeeds.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of ALLAH SWT PBUH said: “Hang your whip where the members of the household can see it, for that will discipline them.” [Tabaraani classed hasan by Al-Haythami and Shaikh Al-Albaani]. Parents ought to protect children from immorality and misguidance and ensure they grow up evil free. Such should be the upbringing that the offspring differentiates between Halal and Haram and decide to choose the path of ALLAH. Once this is guaranteed, parents can then expect the children to be righteous; for whoever sows thorns cannot harvest grapes. This model of upbringing should be conceptualized and implemented in the initial stages of upbringing so that it is deeply rooted in their lives.

One should bear in mind that the child should not be reprimanded excessively, because it makes the child immune to condemnation and scolding and increases in him the courage to commit wrong, thereby gradually diminishing the value of admonitions from the heart of the child. Similarly, it’s necessary for the father that when he talks to the child, he maintains his awe and fear [in the heart of the child] and should rarely rebuke him. And the mother should make him fear the father when the child is being stubborn and should strictly stop the child from misdeeds. Undoubtedly man’s real wealth is his children and if they are nurtured with care, love, affection and protected from evil, they will inshALLAH be a source of rewards here and hereafter.

From Numan bin Thabit to Imam ABU HANIFA

Imam Abu Hanifa is referred as “The Imam” by Abu Dawood, and as “The Imam, one of those who have reached the sky” by Ibn Hajar. He is acclaimed in the Islamic world as “The Greatest Imam” (Al-imam Al-Azam).

Imam Abu Hanifa was the pioneer in Islamic history to organize the writing of Fiqh under sub-headings embracing the whole of the Law, beginning with purity (Tahara) followed by prayer (Salah), an order which was retained by all subsequent scholars such as Malik, Shafi`i, Abu Dawood, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, and others. All these and their followers are indebted to this great being and duly credit him a share of their reward because he was the first to open that road for them. According to the hadith of the Prophet PBUH:
“He who initiates something good in Islam has its reward and the reward of those who practice it until the Day of Judgment, without lessening in the least the reward of those who practice it. The one who initiates something bad in Islam will incur its punishment and the punishment of all those who practice it until the Day of Judgment without lessening their punishment in the least.” However, it was not only the knowledge of Imam Abu Hanifa that made him such a great man: but it was also his constant worship and Taqwa (fear of ALLAH); his endeavor to purify himself from all worldly matters; his asceticism and his forbearance at the times of difficulties. That is what made Imam Abu Hanifa Imam Al Azam.

Now, would it not be incredible to get enlightened about one of the most revered scholars in the Islamic history became to be known ABU HANIFA from his original name; Numan bin Thabit? Off course it will be a pleasure considering Abu Hanifa being an unusual name because of its meaning, ‘the father of Hanifa.’ Hanifa was Imam’s daughter. The following unveils the reasoning.

Imam Abu Hanifa once was put forth a question that, for the first time in his worth remembering career, he was unable to answer. The query seemed to be simple but wasn’t so. The question was: Why the wife is forbidden to take more than one husband? To this, Abu Haifa’s daughter claimed that she knew the answer and would be glad to reply to this question with ease but on a condition her father would promise that if she succeeded in solving this question, he would then assure her a place in history. Abu Hanifa agreed.

Hanifa formed an assembly of women and gave each of them a cup. She then brought in a large bowl of milk and asked each of them to dip their cups in the milk and to fill their cups to the brim. The women did so. She then asked them to pour back the milk into the bowl. They did this too. She then asked them to re-fill their cups taking back only their own milk that they had poured into the bowl.

This, obviously, was impossible to them to do. Hanifa had clearly demonstrated the kind of dilemma that would be posed if a woman had several husbands. If she becomes pregnant, and she had more than one husband she would find it extremely difficult in determining who the actual father is? Identifying parentage and lineage would then be insurmountable for the offspring. Imam Abu Hanifa was so pleased with the wit of his daughter that he took the name ‘Abu Hanifa’, ‘the father of Hanifa’ thereby glorifying and ensuring his daughter a place in history.

Miraculous ZAMZAM

Zamzam is a sacred well encompassing Masjid-e-Haram at Makkah found thirty-eight cubits away from the holy Ka’bah. It is a living miracle of ALLAH and there is no second opinion about its existence and sustenance. Just being 5 feet deep, it is able to cater to the requirements of billions of pilgrims in the past and will continue to do so until the Day of Judgment. It is a demonstrated fact that the water of Zamzam is devoid of any biological contamination such as formation of algae etc. The Prophet PBUH said: “The best water on the surface of the earth is the water of Zamzam; it is a kind of food and a healing from sickness.” (Saheeh al-Jaami)                                


Zamzam is a well through which ALLAH SWT quenched the thirst of infant Ismail, son of prophet Ibrahim (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon them both). When the mother-son duo of Hajira (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon her) and Ismail exhausted the meager food supplements on a barren desert, the latter desperately sought water to smother the bursting thirst of her son, but could not find any. She climbed up the Mount al-Safaa, praying ALLAH to bless her with water for Ismail, and then she climbed up the Mount al-Marwah repeating her plea. She ran across both mountains Safaa and Marwah for seven times. Her faith and prayers justified ALLAH’s mercy and thus angel Jibreel (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) on HIS command struck the earth, for water to gush out.

The scholars (may ALLAH have mercy on them) are in agreement that it is Mustahabb (recommended) for pilgrims on Hajj and Umrah in particular, and for all Muslims in general, to drink Zamzam water to their fills. Prophet PBUH is reported to have drunk the water of Zamzam [Bukhaari]. According to the hadith of Abu Dharr (may ALLAH be pleased with him), the Prophet said concerning the water of Zamzam, “It is a blessing, and it is food that satisfies.” [Muslim]. Al-Tayaalisi added, in a version that he narrated: “and a cure for the sick. But this is when one drinks it with faith and sincerity, as proven in the hadith of Abu Dharr.

The blessed water of Zamzam was used by the two angels to cleanse the heart of the Prophet PBUH during his childhood. This is established by the hadith of Abu Dharr who reported that the Prophet PBUH said: “My roof was opened when I was in Makkah, and Jibreel came down and opened my chest and washed it with Zamzam water. He then brought a gold basin full of wisdom and faith, poured it into my chest, and closed it up again. Finally, he took me by the hand and ascended with me into the first heaven,” [Bukhaari].

Al-Haafiz Al-Iraaqi (may ALLAH have mercy on him) said: The rationale of cleansing Prophet’s chest with Zamzam water was to make him stronger so that he could visualise the kingdom of heaven and earth, and Paradise and Hell; and also that one of the special qualities of Zamzam is that, it strengthens the heart and calms the soul.

It is advised that people carry holy Zamzam water back to their homes since it is a catalyst for cure for those who seek healing. Aa’ishah(R.A) reported that she took Zamzam water home with her in bottles, and said, “The Messenger of ALLAH PBUH took some of it away with him, and he used to pour it on the sick and give it to them to drink,” [Tirmidhi].

Ibn al-Qayyim (may ALLAH have mercy on him) said: Myself and others tried seeking healing with Zamzam water and witnessed wondrous things. I sought healing with it from a number of illnesses, and I was healed by the permission of ALLAH. I saw someone who nourished himself with it for a number of days, half a month or more, and he did not felt hunger; he performed Tawaaf along with the other people just as they did. And he told me that he consumed nothing but Zamzam water for forty days and he had the strength to have intercourse with his wife, to fast and to perform Tawaaf numerous times. [Zaad al-Ma’aad]

The Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) said: “The water of Zamzam is for whatever it is drunk for.” [Ibn Maajah]. Undoubtedly Zamzam water serves whatever purpose and intention for which it is drunk; provided it is dealt with sincerity. The scholars and the righteous have attempted this and they drank with the intention of fulfilling their needs and seeking cure for the sick or relief from poverty or catastrophe and surely ALLAH simplified their needs for them. So if one gets the opportunity to drink Zamzam, one should grab the opportunity to pray for: a healthy body, sharp mind, forgiveness for sins, life in Jannah after death, an honorable death with the kalima on one’s lips, and everyone’s physical and spiritual needs of this world and Hereafter.

A chaste Muslim woman deserves no less!

During the days of Prophet PBUH, there existed three Jewish tribes in the valley of Madinah i.e. Banu Qurayza, Banu Qaynuqa and Banu Nazeer. The Prophet reached non-interference deal such that Muslims and Jews will not meddle in each other’s affairs. Following the battle of Badr, Prophet politely invited the Jews to Islam. He PBUH said “O Jews! Become Muslims before what befell the Quraysh befalls you.” They said: “O, you seem to think that we are your people. Do not deceive yourself because you vanquished a contingent of Quraysh having no knowledge of war and got the better of them; for, by God, if we fight you, you will find that we are real men and that you have not met the like of us”. This indeed was an open challenge to the Prophet.

The intent to write this article aroused when I was browsing to read something about Jews during Prophet’s time. Surprisingly most facts were distorted and presented about the tribe Banu Qaynuqa. Hence I considered to shed some light on this as to why were they expelled by the Prophet PBUH.

Upon perusing the pages of history, the following incident is worth mentioning. On an eventful day, a Muslim woman went to a marketplace owned by the Jews of Banu Qaynuqa. She was a chaste and modest woman. She visited a jeweler amongst them. The Jews saw her and disliked the fact that she was chaste and covered. Evil as they were; wanted to have a glimpse of her, molest, or flirt with her. Such were their immoral actions before Islam honored woman. They wanted to uncover her face and take off her hijaab, but she refused to budge. The jeweler then took an end of her garment and attached it to the end of her Khimaar (a kind of Dupatta for women), while she was unaware. When she stood up, her garment was raised, revealing her body parts. The Jews began to laugh. The Muslim woman cried out, wishing they had killed her rather than uncovering her body.

A Muslim man witnessing this incidence brandished his sword and attacked the jeweler, killing him. In turn, the Jews attacked the Muslim and killed him. When prophet PBUH was acknowledged about this and the fact that Jews had violated their pledge with him, engaging in molestation of woman: He surrounded the Jews until they all surrendered and conceded to his judgment.

When the prophet PBUH decided to punish them in retribution for the dishonor of a Muslim woman, the leader of Hypocrites, in whose eyes the honour of a woman was only to care for satisfying their stomachs and private parts – Abdullah Bin Ubay Bin Salul stood up and said, “O Muhammed! Please treat my allies with kindness!” He said this because they had been allied to him during the days of pre-Islamic ignorance. The Prophet turned away and refused to forfeit, for how could he forgive a group who wished to spread corruption amongst the believers?

The leader of hypocrite said again “O Muhammed, treat them with kindness!” But the Prophet turned away from him again in pursuit of defending the honour of the chaste Muslim woman. The leader of Hypocrites became angry. He placed his hand in the pocket of the Prophet’s shirt and pulled him saying “Be kind to my allies! Be kind to my allies!” This angered the Prophet. He turned around and shouted at him, “Let me go of you” the hypocrite refused and began to beg the Prophet to prevent their execution.

The Prophet turned to him and said, “They are yours, then” and decided not to execute them. However he did banish them from their dwellings in Madinah. Yes, a chaste Muslim woman deserves no less! Indeed Islam is the only religion which no doubts upholds the true value of woman. This historic incident has proved that Islam does not tolerate any inappropriate action against woman.

Hence the whole tribe of Banu Qaynuqa was expelled despite the intercession of hypocrite Abdullah bin Ubay.

A Pious Wife is one who…

…who is in constant pursuit to seek ALLAH’s pleasure; one who obey’s what her lord ordered and refrains from what HE dislikes i.e. following Quran; one who strives to acquire the qualities of a good wife by following Prophet PBUH and His female companions; one who emulates the lives of Khadijah, Aaiyehsa, Fatimah,…(may ALLAH be pleased with all of them); one whose nobles actions equates to what Messenger of ALLAH PBUH said “The world is delightful and its greatest treasure is a good woman“. [Sahih Muslim]. Prophet mentioned at another occasion “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors.” [Ibn Hibban]

Islamic wife is emplaced as a life partner or a friend and not a servant or slave. Islam has strictly laid down few responsiblities on woman’s shoulders such as pleasing her husband, preserving her modesty, chastity, taking care of husband’s wealth in his absence etc. ALLAH SWT says: Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to ALLAH and to their husbands) and guard in their husband’s absence what ALLAH orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [An Nisa 4:34]. Hence all these responsibilities should not be mistaken for servitude or bondage to men. The messenger of ALLAH has raised the status of woman folk by saying, “Whoever is granted a good wife, he is helped to follow half his religion, let him obey ALLAH in the second half” [Hakim]

If we move a step further we notice that wherever ALLAH SWT mentions about marriage HE cautions the couple to fear ALLAH SWT. The wisdom behind this is that there is no one to moniter the couple in their private affairs so HE continously reminds them to be fearful because everyone has to return to ALLAH SWT one day and HE is all knowing. ALLAH says “And guard yourselves against a day in which you shall be returned to ALLAH; then every soul shall be paid back in full what it has earned, and they shall not be dealt with unjustly” [Al Baqarah 2:281].

During the days of Prophet PBUH there arose a discussion as to who is the best woman in the world. The discussion was still on, Ali (may ALLAH be pleased with him) returned to his house and mentioned the topic to his wife Fatimah RA. She replied “I will tell you who such a woman is? She is the one who does not look at a non-mahram (as defined in shariah) nor provides the opportunity for such a man to look at her.” Ali RA returned to gathering and informed Prophet PBUH about his wife’s defination. The Messenger of ALLAH smiled and said “Fatima is a piece of my heart”. The prophet PBUH said to Umar: “Shall I not tell you of something that is a man’s treasure? A righteous woman who pleases him when he looks at her, when he tells her to do something, she obeys him, and if he is away from her, she is faithful”. [Abu dawood]

The ill mannered wife will take the whole family to Hell faster than a galloping horse. The family will be devoid of peace thereby rupturing delicate fabric of society. Islam has adviced the woman to be soft and sweet spoken with all the sweetness of flower to their husbands; and whenever they encounter a stranger they must cut short their conversation, further more they must talk in a harsh tone. Today, in this era of modrenisation the trend is reverse. Sadly, most women destroy their homes just because of their uncontrollable tongue.

ALLAH SWT has detailed married life and the rights associated with it in Surah Al-Nisa (Chapter 4) and surah Al-Nur (Chapter 24). The righteous predecessors would make it a routine to teach their daughters the commentry [tafsir] of both Surah Al-Nisa and Surah Al-Nur before marriage. If the Muslims of today cannot teach their daughters the entire Quran they should at least teach them the above named Surahs so that they would be well groomed with their rights and responsibilities at the time of marriage.

Most of the righteous predecessors had the habit of making their daughters transcribe the Holy Quran by their own hands. Hence the girl would perform ablution and happily transcribe parts of the Holy Quran daily and when they complete, the father would bind it in gold and this would be given as dower at the time of marriage. MashALLAH! This was the dowry in those times, thereby informing the future husband that whatever free time the girl had in her home was spent in transcribing the Book of ALLAH SWT. Hats off to such pious Muslims.

The Prophet PBUH said, “If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than ALLAH, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad, if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards ALLAH.” [Ahmad]